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Strategies to Achieve Your Goals

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Achievement of a goal takes a long time and due to this reason, many people tend to divert from achieving their goals. Clearly, there is no short cut method to achieve success. However, if you are smart enough or take smart actions, then you can reach your goals in a much shorter time compared to others. Nevertheless, do not expect to do a thing in one day that others might take years to achieve. Listed below are a few smart moves that you can follow in order to achieve success in a shorter time compared to others. 

 

  1. You must be able to read yourself and your mind clearly. This means you must have the ability to point out your goals specifically. Often people set goals that are not specific. For example, if a person says that he wants to be rich, then that is not a goal because it has no specifications. Richness can be in terms of wealth, education, and many such things. Therefore, be specific in your goal. 

 

  1. Motivate yourself. Sometimes, you may not get any motivation from others; therefore, you must know the strategy to motivate your own self in times of depression and frustration. You can do this by reminding yourself at least twice daily of the goals you set. You can remind yourself once in the morning when you get up from sleep and once at night before going to bed. Human psychology works at these hours. 

 

  1. Spend at least fifteen minutes every day visualizing your goals. This again, will help in motivation. However, make sure that no one disturbs you during this time. 

 

  1. Proper planning is essential to achieve a goal. You must plan once by yourself, and then verify the plan with someone well experienced. This consultation will help you to identify your faults made in the plan. You can note down your plans in a tabular way, as only then everything will appear to be in order. 

 

  1. Ensure that you have the ability to measure the progress you make in your every day goals. This is very important, because if you cannot measure your progress, then you cannot update your goals and lose track mid way. 

 

  1. Finally, be dedicated and committed to your goals. Dedication plays a major role towards the achievement of a goal. 

 

Hence, following these strategies you can attain success quickly. Just remember that when you attain success, keep your foot firmly on the ground as most people fail to do so. 

 

The Meaning of Personality Development

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In this world there are so many people and each person has a very different definition of what personality is. Human beings are very unique entities. This is because they possess a very powerful element called the mind. They are the only beings with this tool, not any other animal in the whole planet has this element. The other animals have got the brain just like the human beings but the ability of their brain is only to some degree unlike the human beings. So because of our powerful mind, we are able to control the whole world. This is very important to note because it plays a very important part in personality. It is the one that develops, enriches and boosts our personality in both internal and external beauty. 

 

There are several meanings of the word personality from different sources and the dictionary has got numerous meanings. One of the main meanings of personality is that it is a set of a person’s attributes. This set is made up of a person’s attitude, interests, different ways of behavior, the way one responds to emotions, the part that he plays in the society and many other personal qualities that last for a very long time. These characteristics are the ones that make one attractive and also to be noticed and thus socially interesting. It could also mean a very well known person, a person who is famous, an example of such a person is an entertainer or an athlete. It could also mean an extraordinary person who is distinguishing. It is also the features of being a person and which make you exist.  

 

These are the meanings which only look at the outside of a person but then they are true. The only way that we can be able to know a stranger is through the outside or what he has worn. This is because we cannot know his character or behavior from just looking at the person. Many people however judge one’s personality from the external. This is not supposed to be the case. To know the personality of a person you have to stay with them for some time.        

 

You should also note that we do not inherit personality traits and neither are they inborn. They develop in us the minute we are born. We are the developers of our personality. People around us could help us to develop but the truth is that we are the main developers. So, for us to have personality we have to learn both academic and extracurricular activities. 

Meditation Fundamentals

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Meditation refers to a state where your body and mind are consciously relaxed and focused. Practitioners of this art report increased awareness, focus, and concentration, as well as a more positive outlook in life. Meditation is most commonly associated with monks, mystics and other spiritual disciplines. However, you don’t have to be a monk or mystic to enjoy its benefits. And you don’t even have to be in a special place to practice it. You could even try it in your own living room!

Although there are many different approaches to meditation, the fundamental principles remain the same. The most important among these principles is that of removing obstructive, negative, and wandering thoughts and fantasies, and calming the mind with a deep sense of focus. This clears the mind of debris and prepares it for a higher quality of activity. The negative thoughts you have – those of noisy neighbors, bossy officemates, that parking ticket you got, and unwanted spam– are said to contribute to the ‘polluting’ of the mind, and shutting them out is allows for the ‘cleansing’ of the mind so that it may focus on deeper, more meaningful thoughts. Some practitioners even shut out all sensory input – no sights, no sounds, and nothing to touch – and try to detach themselves from the commotion around them. You may now focus on a deep, profound thought if this is your goal. It may seem deafening at first, since we are all too accustomed to constantly hearing and seeing things, but as you continue this exercise you will find yourself becoming more aware of everything around you.

If you find the meditating positions you see on television threatening – those with impossibly arched backs, and painful-looking contortions – you need not worry. The principle here is to be in a comfortable position conducive to concentration. This may be while sitting cross-legged, standing, lying down, and even walking. If the position allows you to relax and focus, then that would be a good starting point. While sitting or standing, the back should be straight, but not tense or tight. In other positions, the only no-no is slouching and falling asleep. Loose, comfortable clothes help a lot in the process since tight fitting clothes have a tendency to choke you up and make you feel tense. The place you perform meditation should have a soothing atmosphere. It may be in your living room, or bedroom, or any place that you feel comfortable in. You might want an exercise mat if you plan to take on the more challenging positions (if you feel more focused doing so, and if the contortionist in you is screaming for release). You may want to have the place arranged so that it is soothing to your senses.

Silence helps most people relax and meditate, so you may want a quiet, isolated area far from the ringing of the phone or the humming of the washing machine. Pleasing scents also help in that regard, so stocking up on aromatic candles isn’t such a bad idea either. The monks you see on television making those monotonous sounds are actually performing their mantra. This, in simple terms, is a short creed, a simple sound which, for these practitioners, holds a mystic value. You do not need to perform such; however, it would pay to note that focusing on repeated actions such as breathing, and humming help the practitioner enter a higher state of consciousness. The principle here is focus. You could also try focusing on a certain object or thought, or even, while keeping your eyes open, focus on a single sight. One sample routine would be to – while in a meditative state – silently name every part of you body and focusing your consciousness on that part. While doing this you should be aware of any tension on any part of your body.

Mentally visualize releasing this tension. It works wonders. In all, meditation is a relatively risk-free practice and its benefits are well worth the effort (or non-effort – remember we’re relaxing). Studies have shown that meditation does bring about beneficial physiologic effects to the body. And there has been a growing consensus in the medical community to further study the effects of such. So in the near future, who knows, that mystical, esoteric thing we call meditation might become a science itself!

If you’re intereste in learning more about Meditation, go to my  shop and purchase the new ebook: ” The Beginner’s Guide to Meditation”. On sale now!

“Relaxing with a Mental PDA” Your 5 Minutes A Day to Stress Management

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We all have this favorite expression when it comes to being stressed out, and I wouldn’t bother naming all of them since it may also vary in different languages. But when it comes down to it, I think that it is how we work or even relax, for that matter that triggers stress. Ever been stressed even when you’re well relaxed and bored? I know I have.

It’s  unavoidable in life, it is important to find ways to decrease and prevent stressful incidents and decrease negative reactions to stress. Here are some of the things that can be done by just remembering it, since life is basically a routine to follow like brushing your teeth or eating breakfast. You can do a few of them in a longer span of time, but as they say– every minute counts.

Managing time

Time management skills can allow you more time with your family and friends and possibly increase your performance and productivity. This will help reduce your stress.

To improve your time management:

  • Save time by focusing and concentrating, delegating, and scheduling time for yourself. 

  • Keep a record of how you spend your time, including work, family, and leisure time. 

  • Prioritize your time by rating tasks by importance and urgency. Redirect your time to those activities that are important and meaningful to you. 

  • Manage your commitments by not over- or under committing. Don’t commit to what is not important to you. 

  • Deal with procrastination by using a day planner, breaking large projects into smaller ones, and setting short-term deadlines. 

  • Examine your beliefs to reduce conflict between what you believe and what your life is like. 

Build healthy coping strategies

It is important that you identify your coping strategies. One way to do this is by recording the stressful event, your reaction, and how you cope in a stress journal. With this information, you can work to change unhealthy coping strategies into healthy ones-those that help you focus on the positive and what you can change or control in your life.

Lifestyle

Some behaviors and lifestyle choices affect your stress level. They may not cause stress directly, but they can interfere with the ways your body seeks relief from stress. Try to:

  • Balance personal, work, and family needs and obligations. 

  • Have a sense of purpose in life. 

  • Get enough sleep, since your body recovers from the stresses of the day while you are sleeping. 

  • Eat a balanced diet for a nutritional defense against stress. 

  • Get moderate exercise throughout the week. 

  • Limit your consumption of alcohol. 

  • Don’t smoke. 

Social support

Social support is a major factor in how we experience stress. Social support is the positive support you receive from family, friends, and the community. It is the knowledge that you are cared for, loved, esteemed, and valued. More and more research indicates a strong relationship between social support and better mental and physical health.

Changing thinking

When an event triggers negative thoughts, you may experience fear, insecurity, anxiety, depression, rage, guilt, and a sense of worthlessness or powerlessness. These emotions trigger the body’s stress, just as an actual threat does. Dealing with your negative thoughts and how you see things can help reduce stress.

  • Thought-stopping helps you stop a negative thought to help eliminate stress. 

  • Disproving irrational thoughts helps you to avoid exaggerating the negative thought, anticipating the worst, and interpreting an event incorrectly. 

  • Problem solving helps you identify all aspects of a stressful event and find ways to deal with it. 

  • Changing your communication style helps you communicate in a way that makes your views known without making others feel put down, hostile, or intimidated. This reduces the stress that comes from poor communication. Use the assertiveness ladder to improve your communication style. 

Even writers like me can get stressed even though we’re just using our hands to do the talking, but having to sit for 7 or 8 hours is already stressful enough and have our own way to relieve stress. Whether you’re the mail guy, the CEO, or probably the average working parent, stress is one unwanted visitor you would love to boot out of your homes, especially your life.

BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM, A STARTER GUIDE TO SELF IMPROVEMENT

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So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement. Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?

Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.

Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.

Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.

Dart Pin #4: Past Experience It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

Dart Pin #5: Negative World View Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.

Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the permission to build self esteem and improve your self.”

In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.

Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.

Gratitude Journaling

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There are different types of Journaling. Today I want to focus on Gratitude Journaling.

Gratitude Journaling helps make your attitude of appreciation a core part of who you. Writing with the purpose of being grateful or thankful.

If not sure where to begin Gratitude Journaling, here are some prompts to get you started:

  1. What made you smile today?
  2. Name a highlight in your day.
  3. What is your favorite quoate and why?
  4. What are you learning about yourself?
  5. What made you laugh today?
  6. Who are you most grateful for and why?

Use any of these prompts to get started today.

Quote of today: “Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.”
Oprah

 

Coronavirus (COVID-19) Are You Stressing?

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The Coronavirus (COVID-19), has many of us scared and wondering is this really happening. The media and other organizations have shown all the information, good or bad about the virsus. Panic has set in, causing people to hoard and stockpile supplies not knowing all the facts.

We should all use caution during this time. If you are unsure about the the virus go to the CDC website for information. Third party sites, hype or present information using scare tactics. This only fuels people’s stress. Do what you think is right for your family, be vigilant in hygiene and safety recommendations. Also, take a break from the news. Just turn if off.

Don’t overwhlem yourself with so much social media either. Should we be concern , yes. However, don’t allow this to overwhelm you. Talk with a professional if you feel your anxiety levels have elevated. If you struggle with substance abuse or alcohol, seek treatment.

Here is a link to some great information about managing your stress from the CDC:

https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/prepare/managing-stress-anxiety.html

Stay safe.

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