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Discover True Gold When You Know What Makes You Happy

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Do you know what makes you happy? If you do then you have discovered true gold. We are not talking of the momentary flashes of happiness that come when we eat a favorite dessert or drive a beautiful car.

 

These will provide temporary happiness. The happiness being discussed here is the happiness that you can take refuge in.  That keeps you at peace with yourself and your world, no matter what is going on around you. 

 

Some people find a sense of happiness in their relationship to God. For some, happiness is found in pursuing a new hobby or learning a new sport. Many find roles in life define their happiness. However, are these things really the source of true happiness? They certainly contribute to it, and probably most people use these as their source of true happiness.

 

Self-acceptance is the key to the true gold that helps us to deal with the everyday trials of life. We may express that self-acceptance in our relationship with God, with others or with things in our lives, but unless we accept ourselves first, nothing will truly satisfy us or make us happy for very long. True inner happiness has its roots in who we are and not on what we do to stay happy.

 

Psychologists have long promoted the idea that the greatest love affair we can have is the one we have with ourselves. This love is not self-seeking, self-promoting, or self-focused. It is a love that accepts that we are unique individuals and the problems we face and the struggles we go through have nothing to do with the person on the inside, the person we live with when we are along with our thoughts and ourselves.

 

Even if we are hit hard by whatever rocks our experiences in life may throw at us, they can’t harm the inner person. We can experience that level of true happiness when we learn to love ourselves and see ourselves as the true gold we are. We can find refuge in self-acceptance. knowing that we are not defined by our experiences, but rather we can define our experiences by our reactions to them.

What to Give to Your Children

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When you are a parent, you have to shoulder a lot of responsibilities, one of the most important of which is raising your child. Anyone starting out as a parent has a lot of hopes and expectations… they want to be able to give their children the best they can and they hope to make their children better than anyone else’s have ever been. This is a common idea that all parents have. But, somewhere along the way, compromises begin. Parents begin to see that their children aren’t turning out to be the best in everything like they hoped for. And what torments the parents the most is that they believe they are giving their children every facility they would need.

 

If you want to be a happy, satisfied parent, then you should know what you should give your children and within what limits.

 

The best parent isn’t one who has been able to give every commodity under the sun to their kids. Your parenting isn’t measured by the things you give to your children. You should understand that the love you get from your children is beyond material goods.

 

Instead of buying the most expensive toy in the store for your kid, if you spend some time playing with them in the park, it would be appreciated more by the children. Most parents kick-start the toy habit in children themselves by giving them toys initially. Now, that doesn’t mean that you have to stop giving toys to your children altogether, but don’t make it a habit that the child depends on for happiness. When you are giving a toy to your child, also make sure that you can sit down and play with your child for a while.

 

The best thing that the child can want from you when they are young is your company. They want you to tell them how to do everything and they can take on from there by themselves. You have to be their guide in their younger years. This is more important than giving them material things such as food, clothes and toys.

 

At the same time, it becomes your responsibility to help them enrich their skills, talents and intelligence. Just going to a school is not enough. You have to keep active their special gifts. Can your child sing very well? Or are they very good in some particular sport? What are you doing about it? It is an important—though oftentimes ignored—parental responsibility to give children the things they need to hone their talents. Your child shouldn’t grow up and say that they could become the next Picasso but their parents never let them hold a paintbrush in their hands.

 

Then there is security too. Whether you save money in your kid’s name or buy insurance plans that are customized for their needs, it does not matter, but you need to give them some financial stability as they are growing up. This helps you cope with their ever-increasing demands as well.

These are the things you have to be worried about. Parenting is not about giving children the best of toys; it is their enrichment that you have to aim for.

How To Repurpose Your Thoughts

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The mind is quite a complex organ of the human body. It is amazing to learn about the working of a mind when a person is fully conscious and in a subconscious state. However, many times, you may have wanted to change yourself and your thoughts into a new person. Before turning to a new person, you have to think of the person you want to be and visualize him or her. In other words, it is a game of mind that makes you turn into a new person. Below are some ways where you can learn techniques on how to change yourself to a new person or reprogram your subconscious mind. 

 

 

The first thing is you have to make affirmations positively. You have to empower your mind with positive questions and positive, satisfactory responses. For instance, make assertions to yourself like, “I am satisfied that I have accomplished my job.” This is a positive affirmation and works wonders for subconscious minds. 

 

 

Visualization is an important property that helps you to change into a new man and plays a major role in the powering of your subconscious mind. This visualization must be creative and you must have the power to think and feel the things you want in life. It means that you must be able to imagine it with eyes closed. The property of visualization plays a major role in the subconscious mind. 

 

 

Audio programs are also a way to boost up the subconscious mind to a higher level. Here you attain a high concentration. For example, if you hear some positive words silently at night in an audio player even while you are asleep, it makes an impact in your mind and it plays the role of affirmation in the subconscious mind.  

 

 

However, there are many other ways too, to increase the power of your mind. Processes such as hypnosis, EFT and sublime videos also make an impact on your subconscious mind. The steps to program your subconscious mind once again are simple yet tough to follow. 

 

Words and emotions influence the subconscious mind more than other parts. This is the reason why you have the power to attract more things when you are in a happy state of mind, as at that time, the subconscious mind is full of affirmations and visualizations. 

 

Thus, the mind is a really highly complex process which if you want to study, you have to spend years and understand its pattern of functioning through study.

 

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How To Crush Setting Your Goals

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Goal setting is an essential activity for a successful life. It won’t be wrong to say that people without goals in their life, merely exist. People who have goals are the ones who discover the real value in their life.

It so often happens that you decide to set some goals but then things do not go the way you want them to. Your goals falter and fumble, and you aren’t able to achieve the things that you expect. 

People would give anything if they knew how to set goals that they can achieve; goals that can add real meaning to their lives. Now, though the achievement of goals depends on several things, here are some points that you should consider.

 

Here’s How To Crush Setting Your Goals:

1. Do not aim too high too soon. To be honest, there is no limitation to the goals you set, but if you are new to goal setting, then start with smaller goals first. Like, if you are trying to lose weight, just plan on losing one pound at the end of the week. This is not too difficult, and the best part is that when you achieve this smaller goal, you get motivated to chase bigger goals.

2. Never cross the boundaries of your capacity. All right, you like to challenge yourself all the time, but that does not mean that you should become impractical. You should not set a goal that’s not your forte, or at least you should not be too rigid about it. Of course, you can learn a totally new thing, but there are things like determination, time, the willingness to put in effort, etc. that matter a lot.

3. When you are setting a goal, remember to give it a reasonable timeframe. For example, if you have set a goal to learn Chinese, you must give it a reasonable amount of time, like say 4 months. Rushing too much with your goals means that you will not be able to achieve the things that you want and that will make you disillusioned from planning further.

4. An important thing to consider when setting goals is the result that you will get from it. That’s your incentive. If the result is something that you badly want, then you will find that following the goal becomes much easier. That’s why, a very safe way to fashion a goal is to weave it around something you really want.

Keep these points in mind when you are setting goals. Though goal setting depends on so many different points, these are the ones that you cannot afford to miss out on.

Positive Thinking and Its Effect on Your Health

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We all know that feeling sad can lead to depression if it’s not resolved, but what can negative thinking do to your general health and wellbeing. Research has shown that people who are positive thinkers tend to have fewer colds and live longer and enjoy being in a state of good health.

 

The reason for this state’s overall improved health is not hard to understand. There is a direct connection between our emotions and our physical body. This connection has been known, though not completely understood for a long time.  People may grow older physically and this may be quite noticeable, but inwardly they remain young and confident and their energy levels remain high, when they maintain a positive outlook on life. 

 

What is clearly known is that in people who maintain positive thinking, the immune system is heightened by increased levels of hormones designed to build resistance to common infections such as colds and the influenza virus. 

 

The feeling of being in control or life and circumstances together with optimism about life in general helps to help us make choices in other areas of our life. People, who feel relaxed and confident and in control tend to eat better foods, exercise more and spend more time with family and friends. These activities are themselves, contribute to an improvement of health and wellbeing.

 

People who think negatively about their circumstances in life and who don’t look after their nutritional needs and exercise regularly, often become focused on finding ways to increase their escape from such feelings, overeating and addictions to cigarettes, drugs and alcohol are common symptoms of negative thoughts. 

 

Experiencing emotional wellbeing and balance doesn’t mean never feeling sad or upset about things. It means reducing the stress in our lives and remaining positive despite all we may be facing. It is in believing that all of our struggles in life are not unique problems that only we face.  People with serious, even life threatening health problems are known to go into remission or see immediate improvement in their symptoms when they focus on life outside of their health problems. 

 

 

Emotional well being is one of the most important gifts we can give to ourselves. Doing regular emotional checkups and ensuring we do something to help aid our emotional well being is essential to maintaining a healthy life. 

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Implementing Courage For A Better Life

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Once you implement courage, you begin to better your life. Constructing courage will help you take risks to a brighter future that you usually wouldn’t take. When you implement courage, you put fear behind you. Bravery is the process of admitting that you have dreads, yet you’re willing to determine a way to defeat those fears and not let these fears take charge of you. It’s ok to experience your fears at suitable times. 

 

When you implement courage, you’ll learn to self-direct you in life. You’ll learn to accept punishment and rewards graciously. A courageous individual will frequently feel motivated to accept blame and responsibility while critiquing their actions and utilizing what they learn to move forward. Brave individuals will step to the front, instead of stepping back when opportunities come their way. On the other hand, a brave individual will step back and take a view at his or her errors gracefully. 

 

An individual willing to better their life will relax. This individual will relax even when plans fail. For example, if it stormed the next day the individual will find something else to occupy his or her time and feel just as happy about joining this adventure. 

 

To get successful and better your life you’ll need to learn how to trust you. When you trust you, you are able to trust others also. Regrettably, we live in a world where trust is difficult to find, yet when you trust you, you can’t blame other people when things go wrong. 

 

Bettering your life includes utilizing your creative and critical mind. When you can produce fresh ideas, you’re off to the road to success. You’ve many options in this world; it takes you to pull up resources to find those choices. 

 

Occasionally in life, we feel uncomfortable. In fact, this is common. Are you willing to accept your irritations? Maybe at an interview you feel lost. Are you willing to accept this irritation and discover a way to deliver a great speech to impress the interviewer? Alternatively, are you willing to allow negative energies to cost you the job. 

 

Acceptance is your key to happiness. When you are able to learn to accept the good with the bad, you are able to learn how to live a happier and better life. If you can’t accept however, well, reread this material again.

Strategies to Achieve Your Goals

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Achievement of a goal takes a long time and due to this reason, many people tend to divert from achieving their goals. Clearly, there is no short cut method to achieve success. However, if you are smart enough or take smart actions, then you can reach your goals in a much shorter time compared to others. Nevertheless, do not expect to do a thing in one day that others might take years to achieve. Listed below are a few smart moves that you can follow in order to achieve success in a shorter time compared to others. 

 

  1. You must be able to read yourself and your mind clearly. This means you must have the ability to point out your goals specifically. Often people set goals that are not specific. For example, if a person says that he wants to be rich, then that is not a goal because it has no specifications. Richness can be in terms of wealth, education, and many such things. Therefore, be specific in your goal. 

 

  1. Motivate yourself. Sometimes, you may not get any motivation from others; therefore, you must know the strategy to motivate your own self in times of depression and frustration. You can do this by reminding yourself at least twice daily of the goals you set. You can remind yourself once in the morning when you get up from sleep and once at night before going to bed. Human psychology works at these hours. 

 

  1. Spend at least fifteen minutes every day visualizing your goals. This again, will help in motivation. However, make sure that no one disturbs you during this time. 

 

  1. Proper planning is essential to achieve a goal. You must plan once by yourself, and then verify the plan with someone well experienced. This consultation will help you to identify your faults made in the plan. You can note down your plans in a tabular way, as only then everything will appear to be in order. 

 

  1. Ensure that you have the ability to measure the progress you make in your every day goals. This is very important, because if you cannot measure your progress, then you cannot update your goals and lose track mid way. 

 

  1. Finally, be dedicated and committed to your goals. Dedication plays a major role towards the achievement of a goal. 

 

Hence, following these strategies you can attain success quickly. Just remember that when you attain success, keep your foot firmly on the ground as most people fail to do so. 

 

The Meaning of Personality Development

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In this world there are so many people and each person has a very different definition of what personality is. Human beings are very unique entities. This is because they possess a very powerful element called the mind. They are the only beings with this tool, not any other animal in the whole planet has this element. The other animals have got the brain just like the human beings but the ability of their brain is only to some degree unlike the human beings. So because of our powerful mind, we are able to control the whole world. This is very important to note because it plays a very important part in personality. It is the one that develops, enriches and boosts our personality in both internal and external beauty. 

 

There are several meanings of the word personality from different sources and the dictionary has got numerous meanings. One of the main meanings of personality is that it is a set of a person’s attributes. This set is made up of a person’s attitude, interests, different ways of behavior, the way one responds to emotions, the part that he plays in the society and many other personal qualities that last for a very long time. These characteristics are the ones that make one attractive and also to be noticed and thus socially interesting. It could also mean a very well known person, a person who is famous, an example of such a person is an entertainer or an athlete. It could also mean an extraordinary person who is distinguishing. It is also the features of being a person and which make you exist.  

 

These are the meanings which only look at the outside of a person but then they are true. The only way that we can be able to know a stranger is through the outside or what he has worn. This is because we cannot know his character or behavior from just looking at the person. Many people however judge one’s personality from the external. This is not supposed to be the case. To know the personality of a person you have to stay with them for some time.        

 

You should also note that we do not inherit personality traits and neither are they inborn. They develop in us the minute we are born. We are the developers of our personality. People around us could help us to develop but the truth is that we are the main developers. So, for us to have personality we have to learn both academic and extracurricular activities. 

Meditation Fundamentals

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Meditation refers to a state where your body and mind are consciously relaxed and focused. Practitioners of this art report increased awareness, focus, and concentration, as well as a more positive outlook in life. Meditation is most commonly associated with monks, mystics and other spiritual disciplines. However, you don’t have to be a monk or mystic to enjoy its benefits. And you don’t even have to be in a special place to practice it. You could even try it in your own living room!

Although there are many different approaches to meditation, the fundamental principles remain the same. The most important among these principles is that of removing obstructive, negative, and wandering thoughts and fantasies, and calming the mind with a deep sense of focus. This clears the mind of debris and prepares it for a higher quality of activity. The negative thoughts you have – those of noisy neighbors, bossy officemates, that parking ticket you got, and unwanted spam– are said to contribute to the ‘polluting’ of the mind, and shutting them out is allows for the ‘cleansing’ of the mind so that it may focus on deeper, more meaningful thoughts. Some practitioners even shut out all sensory input – no sights, no sounds, and nothing to touch – and try to detach themselves from the commotion around them. You may now focus on a deep, profound thought if this is your goal. It may seem deafening at first, since we are all too accustomed to constantly hearing and seeing things, but as you continue this exercise you will find yourself becoming more aware of everything around you.

If you find the meditating positions you see on television threatening – those with impossibly arched backs, and painful-looking contortions – you need not worry. The principle here is to be in a comfortable position conducive to concentration. This may be while sitting cross-legged, standing, lying down, and even walking. If the position allows you to relax and focus, then that would be a good starting point. While sitting or standing, the back should be straight, but not tense or tight. In other positions, the only no-no is slouching and falling asleep. Loose, comfortable clothes help a lot in the process since tight fitting clothes have a tendency to choke you up and make you feel tense. The place you perform meditation should have a soothing atmosphere. It may be in your living room, or bedroom, or any place that you feel comfortable in. You might want an exercise mat if you plan to take on the more challenging positions (if you feel more focused doing so, and if the contortionist in you is screaming for release). You may want to have the place arranged so that it is soothing to your senses.

Silence helps most people relax and meditate, so you may want a quiet, isolated area far from the ringing of the phone or the humming of the washing machine. Pleasing scents also help in that regard, so stocking up on aromatic candles isn’t such a bad idea either. The monks you see on television making those monotonous sounds are actually performing their mantra. This, in simple terms, is a short creed, a simple sound which, for these practitioners, holds a mystic value. You do not need to perform such; however, it would pay to note that focusing on repeated actions such as breathing, and humming help the practitioner enter a higher state of consciousness. The principle here is focus. You could also try focusing on a certain object or thought, or even, while keeping your eyes open, focus on a single sight. One sample routine would be to – while in a meditative state – silently name every part of you body and focusing your consciousness on that part. While doing this you should be aware of any tension on any part of your body.

Mentally visualize releasing this tension. It works wonders. In all, meditation is a relatively risk-free practice and its benefits are well worth the effort (or non-effort – remember we’re relaxing). Studies have shown that meditation does bring about beneficial physiologic effects to the body. And there has been a growing consensus in the medical community to further study the effects of such. So in the near future, who knows, that mystical, esoteric thing we call meditation might become a science itself!

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“Relaxing with a Mental PDA” Your 5 Minutes A Day to Stress Management

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We all have this favorite expression when it comes to being stressed out, and I wouldn’t bother naming all of them since it may also vary in different languages. But when it comes down to it, I think that it is how we work or even relax, for that matter that triggers stress. Ever been stressed even when you’re well relaxed and bored? I know I have.

It’s  unavoidable in life, it is important to find ways to decrease and prevent stressful incidents and decrease negative reactions to stress. Here are some of the things that can be done by just remembering it, since life is basically a routine to follow like brushing your teeth or eating breakfast. You can do a few of them in a longer span of time, but as they say– every minute counts.

Managing time

Time management skills can allow you more time with your family and friends and possibly increase your performance and productivity. This will help reduce your stress.

To improve your time management:

  • Save time by focusing and concentrating, delegating, and scheduling time for yourself. 

  • Keep a record of how you spend your time, including work, family, and leisure time. 

  • Prioritize your time by rating tasks by importance and urgency. Redirect your time to those activities that are important and meaningful to you. 

  • Manage your commitments by not over- or under committing. Don’t commit to what is not important to you. 

  • Deal with procrastination by using a day planner, breaking large projects into smaller ones, and setting short-term deadlines. 

  • Examine your beliefs to reduce conflict between what you believe and what your life is like. 

Build healthy coping strategies

It is important that you identify your coping strategies. One way to do this is by recording the stressful event, your reaction, and how you cope in a stress journal. With this information, you can work to change unhealthy coping strategies into healthy ones-those that help you focus on the positive and what you can change or control in your life.

Lifestyle

Some behaviors and lifestyle choices affect your stress level. They may not cause stress directly, but they can interfere with the ways your body seeks relief from stress. Try to:

  • Balance personal, work, and family needs and obligations. 

  • Have a sense of purpose in life. 

  • Get enough sleep, since your body recovers from the stresses of the day while you are sleeping. 

  • Eat a balanced diet for a nutritional defense against stress. 

  • Get moderate exercise throughout the week. 

  • Limit your consumption of alcohol. 

  • Don’t smoke. 

Social support

Social support is a major factor in how we experience stress. Social support is the positive support you receive from family, friends, and the community. It is the knowledge that you are cared for, loved, esteemed, and valued. More and more research indicates a strong relationship between social support and better mental and physical health.

Changing thinking

When an event triggers negative thoughts, you may experience fear, insecurity, anxiety, depression, rage, guilt, and a sense of worthlessness or powerlessness. These emotions trigger the body’s stress, just as an actual threat does. Dealing with your negative thoughts and how you see things can help reduce stress.

  • Thought-stopping helps you stop a negative thought to help eliminate stress. 

  • Disproving irrational thoughts helps you to avoid exaggerating the negative thought, anticipating the worst, and interpreting an event incorrectly. 

  • Problem solving helps you identify all aspects of a stressful event and find ways to deal with it. 

  • Changing your communication style helps you communicate in a way that makes your views known without making others feel put down, hostile, or intimidated. This reduces the stress that comes from poor communication. Use the assertiveness ladder to improve your communication style. 

Even writers like me can get stressed even though we’re just using our hands to do the talking, but having to sit for 7 or 8 hours is already stressful enough and have our own way to relieve stress. Whether you’re the mail guy, the CEO, or probably the average working parent, stress is one unwanted visitor you would love to boot out of your homes, especially your life.